But people who are not able to do this, psychologists say, can end up splitting off the different aspects of their personality. They compartmentalize their lives--literally creating two different selves who act in diametrically opposed ways. Lying becomes their way of life.
The double life unravels when the person is caught and the secret revealed. Some actions may be an unconscious cry for help, but psychologists say there are ways to put a stop to the behavior before disaster.
Do You Lead a Double Life
"Double Life" was almost left off of Candy-O; Ric Ocasek recalled, "When one of my songs goes to the band in barest cassette form, we sit around and talk about it. If I'm outvoted, we don't do it. We almost didn't include 'Double Life' on the new album, it had been dropped."[1] The first lines of the song, "It takes a fast car to lead a double life," are taken from the first two lines of a poem by Lawrence Ferlinghetti called "Lost Parents."[2]
The song is sung by Ric Ocasek on the lead vocals, while the other band members provide a harmony bed of "Aah"s and the repeating refrain "It's all gonna happen to you."[citation needed]
The song features a brief guitar solo by lead guitarist Elliot Easton, who plays a number of high-speed solo licks over a musical background of G major. Some of his solo phrases end pointedly on F, the dominant seventh of G, reinforcing its role as the dominant seventh chord.[3]
As CEO of a medium-sized company, he enjoys his work and finds it fulfilling. He maintains balance in his life by going to the gym each morning, participating in a humanitarian service organization, and setting aside time each day and on weekends to spend with his family and friends.
You must first admit to yourself that you have gone off-track. Then, just like with any other problem you face at work or in your family life, begin to investigate where things went wrong and what needs to be done to get back on track. Enlist the help of trusted family members and friends. Ask (and allow) them to be totally honest with you about what they have observed. Ask them if they have they observed:
That bit of advice is something Brian Meyerson, a South African turned London tycoon, could have used in the early 2000s. He installed his mistress and their son in a Hampstead house right around the corner from where he lived with his wife and family, and when his family vacationed at their beach house in South Africa, Meyerson would rent a nearby villa for his second family. Despite the daring proximity, he managed to keep his second family a secret from his wife for a decade. But, from the expense of supporting a second family to the multimillion-dollar divorce settlement he paid when his wife finally learned the truth, Meyerson remains a cautionary tale in the annals of double living. Tip #2: Double living is not for the faint of heart or those light in the wallet.
It's as if your work and your life are two separate entities, which require you to be two different versions of yourself (Jekyll-and-Hyde style), when all you're craving is to feel like yourself, full time.
But when you're seeking a career and a working life where you can feel totally yourself, it doesn't make sense to bring that way of being into the journey with you. It just makes it more likely that you'll get more of what you already have.
The pseudo-relativistic physics that gives 2D graphene its fascinating properties can also be found in 3D materials known as Dirac semimetals. The common feature of such systems is the existence of Dirac points in momentum space, at which the conduction and valence bands meet. Here, the electronic band dispersion is linear, and so the electrons behave like relativistic particles. Benjamin Wieder and colleagues have now predicted a new class of Dirac semimetal that would feature double Dirac points.
In bulk materials, Dirac points are a consequence of symmetry and topology in the electronic structure. The Dirac points of Dirac semimetals are fourfold degenerate and, in certain cases, strain can be used to tune the system to behave either as a trivial or topological insulator. Using tight-binding models, Wieder et al. showed that seven of the 230 space groups can host a double Dirac point that would be eightfold degenerate. Such systems could be tuned into either a trivial or a topological insulator phase by applying strain along two different directions, providing a unique platform for topological band structure engineering.
In the Research Highlight 'Dirac semimetals: Lead a double life' (Nature Physics 12, 528; 2016), the final sentence was incorrect and should have stated that the described system could be tuned into either a trivial or a topological insulator phase. This has been corrected in the online versions 9 June 2016.
Speaking during his Nov. 5 Angelus address, Pope Francis told pilgrims that "a frequent defect in those who have authority, whether it is civil or ecclesiastical authority, is to demand from others things, even justly, but which they do not put into practice firsthand. They lead a double life."
Just like W. E. Hill's famous optical illusion (see picture), ephrins have mastered the art of being simultaneously attractive and repulsive. Three papers, in Nature, EMBO Journal and the Journal of Biological Chemistry provide clues as to how these signalling molecules lead their double life.
Thus the child who prized closeness to parents becomes the adolescent who wants to preserve more distance. This is why to some degree all adolescents lead a double life. There is the public life that is apparent and disclosed to parents, and there is the private life which is not.
So why is this part of her life kept from parents? The answer is because she wants to be socially independent which means taking care of her peer relationships by herself. The answer is that according to the code of the schoolyard, you do not snitch on peers. The answer is because in her heart of hearts she is starting to believe that teasing her appearance is deserved and so feels obliged to keep it secret as a source of shame.
So why is this part of his life kept from parents? The answer is because he knows they would disapprove. The answer is because he knows they would try to bring this influential companionship to a halt. The answer is because he has deliberately falsified information about what is going on in his life with lies and knows this will upset his parents most of all.
The power of the double life in adolescence is how it can create freedom from parental oversight. The problem with the double life in adolescence is how it can put parents out of touch and their assistance out of reach.
Among them are "The Spy Who Came in from the Cold," "The Little Drummer Girl," "Tinker Tailor Soldier Spy," "The Constant Gardner" and "The Night Manager," all of which have been made into films. He is not just a popular writer of thrillers, he is a novelist of some standing, often compared to Graham Greene, Joseph Conrad and Somerset Maugham. Cornwell has been living this double life for more than 50 years now and rarely gives television interviews, but upon the publication of his 24th novel, "A Legacy of Spies," we were invited to spend a few days with this Literary Lion in Winter.
JOHN LE CARRÉ: It's a separate identity in a way. And you can look after it. And looking after le Carré and keeping myself young, keeping the child in me alive-- keeping a critical nature of life whizzing in my head, that's being le Carré.
JOHN LE CARRÉ: If there remains one great conundrum in my life, it is my father-- who seems to me to-- to inspire also some of the worst or best characters in me. He had a wonderful brain. Everybody who worked for him was in awe of his intellect. But if there was a bent way of doing something, he took it.
JOHN LE CARRÉ: He'd done quite a lot of jail. And he spent some years of his life on the run in late middle age. So it was a mess, just a bloody mess. But that-- surviving it -- it was also a privilege to be part of it in some strange way. It taught you a lot about life, lowered your expectations, raised them in other ways.
JOHN LE CARRÉ: My memory is that I wrote it very fast, the story. But I had no idea where I was going at first. And it just flowed. And I think you get a break like that once in your writing life. I really believe-- nothing else came to me so naturally, so fast.
There would be a price paid for the complacency, when MI6's most notorious double agent, the Cambridge-educated spy Kim Philby, waltzed out the door with some of Britain's most valuable secrets and handed them over to the Soviet Union.
JOHN LE CARRÉ: Like all writers. I've lived a messy, untidy life, inevitably so, and she's been wonderfully supportive. And it's always go to Jane if you need to get to David, 'cause she's got her feet on the ground. God knows where he's got his feet.
JOHN LE CARRÉ: Which is exactly what I'm going through right now. Thank you for lightening my load. Yeah, it's a feeling of-- you've depleted everything you've been working on. It's done. It's out there. And then out of the ashes of the last book, so to speak, comes the phoenix of the new one, and then life's OK again. But the depression that overtakes me when I've turned in a book, I must confess is real and deep.
Many [high-functioning alcoholics] are not viewed by society as being alcoholic, because they have succeeded and overachieved throughout their lifetimes. These achievements often lead to an increase in personal denial as well as denial by colleagues and loved ones. HFAs differ from lower-functioning alcoholics in the way that they appear to the outside world. They are able to hide their addiction so that loved ones and colleagues often do not think or realize that they are alcoholic.
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